A study published in the December issue of the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships reports that mixed-weight couples – one partner is average weight whereas the other partner is overweight – not only argue more than same-weight couples, but have more feelings of anger and resentment towards each other, as well.  These negative feelings can cause problems both with intimacy and communication in a relationship or marriage.

In an online survey on TODAY.com, 55 percent of the 1,500 participants said weight differences have caused problems in their relationships.

In the article, one mixed-weight couple from Utah was profiled.  The woman in the relationship had weight problems her whole life, with her weight yo-yoing up and down.  She met her future husband while at college during a “skinny period” in her life.  However,  the “skinny period” did not last, as, by the time of their wedding, she had  gained twenty-five pounds and five years after their marriage, her weight  was up to 220 pounds.

Both partners were unhappy with the wife’s weight, but it was the wife’s unhappiness with her weight gain that strained the couple’s marriage to the point they were contemplating divorce.  Everything was centered around her weight; what they would eat; what activities they could do together; what clothes she would wear; and even whether or not they would appear together in public because she felt her husband was embarrassed by her appearance.

Researchers state that it is hard to determine which comes first in a mixed-weight relationship; conflict or weight gain, as stress over weight problems tends to lead to overeating. Experts do agree that one important key for success in a mixed-weight relationship is for the “normal weight” partner to never be verbally abusive by stating cruel remarks about his partner’s weight.  Another important key to encouraging weight loss and healthy eating, is for both partners to work together without causing feelings of anger or/and resentment in the overweight partner in the relationship. Working as a team supports the overweight partner and assists in easing feelings of anger, resentment and frustration and thus helps the couple create a more successful, happy relationship.

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When a couple has divorced and tax time rolls around, the question may arise as to who will be able to claim the child as a dependent on their tax return?  This question needs to be answered before the divorced parents file their returns to avoid running into problems with the IRS. 

For tax purposes, a dependent is either a qualifying child or other relative.

Typically, the custodial parent, the parent who has the child the greater part of the year, as a result  of the divorce agreement, can claim the child as a dependent and thus receive the beneficial tax credit. 

When parents have joint physical custody of their child, problems may arise as to who will get to claim the child as a dependent.  To solve this problem, parents can agree in advance on who will take the exemption and then have their ex-spouse sign a release of exemption.  This exemption must be attached to the parent’s tax return for every year the parent will be claiming the tax credit.

Medical expenses can be deducted from your taxes for your child if the expenses are more than a certain percentage of your adjusted gross income.  The parent who is paying the medical expenses is the one who will be allowed to deduct these expenses by the IRS.

The rules regarding tax credits and exemptions are quite complex and confusing.  Although filing your tax deductions properly can save you money, filing them wrong can cost you much more in fines, penalties and stress.  To make sure you file your taxes properly, talk with an experienced tax attorney or go to the IRS website and read Publications 503 and 504, which deal with child and dependent care expenses, and divorced and separated individuals.


Kim Kardashian, the reality TV show star, and Kris Humphries, NBA athlete, had an extremely short marriage; seventy-two days, to be exact.  Although the two have lived apart and have no inclination whatsoever to reunite, they still remain married.  The reason for this lingering divorce battle – the divorce has dragged on for over a year-and-a-half – is because  Kris Humphries wants Kim to admit their marriage was a sham, and until she does, he will drag the divorce out as long as possible.

This puts Kim in the awkward position of finding herself married to one man while giving birth to another man’s child.  Kim is now in a relationship with Kanye West, the popular singer, though the two do not, at this time, have any plans to marry in the future. Unfortunately for Kim, the next court date for her divorce hearing may not happen until late June, when Kris’s NBA season is over.

In the modern world, conceiving and bearing a child out of wedlock is quite common and not looked down upon as it once was in times past.  However, Kim’s predicament is quite unique in that, the presumed father of her baby, under California laws, will be her husband Kris Humphries. 

California is one of twenty-one states in which a man can be the presumed father when he and the child’s mother are married and the child is born during the marriage.  Since Kim and Kris are still married and, if she is unable to obtain a divorce before she delivers, will still be married to Kris, in the eyes of the state of California, the father will be Kris Humphries.

This problem can be remedied easily enough, of course, by all three parties involved, Kim Kardashian, Kanye West, and Kris Humphries, submitting to paternity testing  to prove who is the biological father of Kim’s baby. 

Kris Humphries hopefully will make the mature decision to agree to give Kim Kardashian the divorce she has been seeking for the past eighteen months, which will thus avoid placing Kim in the awkward position of being married to Kris, while bearing Kanye’s child.


The break-up of a marriage is a difficult and emotional time in the life of a woman.  This emotional upheaval is made even more stressful for the more than 100,000 women each year who lose their health insurance after a divorce.

According to a study by the University of Michigan, approximately 115,000 women each year in the United States lose their health insurance benefits when they divorce.  These women either lose, or have their coverage lowered for more than two years after they divorce.

The results of this study was published in the December issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, and used data gathered from 1996 through 2007. Researchers found that among the approximately one million divorces that occur each year, around 100,000 women lose health insurance coverage because they no longer qualify as dependents under their husband’s plans, and also because they do not have the means to pay the premiums for private insurance once once they are divorced and on their own.

Even though divorced women may be having financial difficulties, many do not qualify for Medicaid or other public health insurance.

Researchers found that those women in moderate-income families are those that are more likely to have no insurance coverage, as higher income women can afford their own private insurance, and lower-income women will usually qualify for public health insurance coverage.

Researchers  look to the Affordable Care Act to assist in remedying this loss of health insurance coverage for divorced middle-class women.  The act aims to improve the health care system in this country by making health insurance coverage mandatory for all Americans, and will go into full effect in 2014.