The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is turning out to be a struggle to pass. The Senate has made some changes to it, as it’s renewal approaches, but the House doesn’t agree with the addendums made.

In the world of high profile politics, this battle has turned into an all out riot as we enter the throws of the election year. In order to come to some resolution on this point, congressional leaders are in need of appointing negotiators to hammer out the details and come up with a solid plan. The differences between the two factions will have to come to a final agreement in order for legislation to be passed.

That is easier said than done. Each side blames the other for the hold on the process, therefore nothing is being accomplished at all.

The version coming out of the Senate was approved with bipartisan support, with a vote of 68 to 31. Every Republican woman supported the measure fully, which would expand the coverage to illegal immigrants and Native Americans who are victims of abuse. There are also inclusions made on behalf of gay, lesbian, and transgender victims.

In the House, however; Republicans oppose those changes, passing their own measure with a much closer vote of 222 to 205. Their bill stripped the extended coverage for illegal immigrants, Native Americans, gay, lesbian, and transgender victims. The vote was largely split along party lines.

"We’re eager to resolve our differences…This is an important issue for our country and it needs to be resolved," said House Speaker John Boehner at his weekly news conference Thursday. "I think the bigger question is whether Senator Schumer and his Democrat allies in the Senate want to come to an agreement on this bill or whether they want to continue to attempt to use it as a political weapon in this year’s election cycle."

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Years ago, the idea of a pre-nuptial agreement was only for the exceedingly wealthy looking to protect their fortunes. But in today’s world it is actually a sign of forethought for everyone.

A pre-nuptial agreement is simply a contract between spouses written before marriage in order to be able to divide up assets in the event that the marriage ends in divorce. While that doesn’t brim with romance, it does allow for protection the assets of the spouses should things go awry.

No one wants to think of marriage as a business arrangement, but in many ways it is. When two people are dating and the bluebirds are singing, it’s hard to imagine marriage as a business. Rather than looking at the pre-nup as a sign of doom, it is actually a way to learn up front how the other handles finances. It also helps prepare you, as a couple, in how you intend to move forward with regard to finances.

No one wants to talk about money and marriage, but money is at the top of the food chain when it comes to reasons for divorce. Laying financial matters bare and visible before tying the knot can be a perfect way to know in advance how your marriage will take on the strain of such things. These matters range from cash, to debt, to newly started businesses, to children from a previous relationship. All is laid out in the open so no frightening surprises rear their ugly heads down the line.

Pre-nuptial agreements have existed since the dawn of time, or so it would seem. In the early years of the United States, if a woman didn’t have an agreement ahead of time, she stood to lose everything in a divorce. Marriage for a woman meant complete transference of everything she owned or inherited to her husband. The Married Women’s Property Act of 1848 began in New York State and was the most comprehensive law with regards to what a woman could keep in the event of a divorce.

Protect yourself. Learn about your intended spouse. Grow together in financial understanding.

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A Mexican law firm has initiated a campaign offering divorce gift cards.

In a professed effort to make the divorce process appear less costly, less complex, and less bureaucratic, the Mexican firm, Abogados Postulantes en Sociedad, began marketing its “Libera Divorce Pass.”

The pass can be purchased by friends, family, or parties to a prospective divorce. The minimum purchase for a card is 200 pesos, or roughly $15.43 in United States currency. The gift cards can be applied to a final bill for legal services.

In synch with the launch of the Libera Pass, Abogados Postulantes unveiled an online divorce service. Gift cards can be applied online. In order to initiate a divorce, users must load their accounts with at least 5,000 pesos, or roughly $385.69 in U.S. currency.

The system is built around an “express divorce,” which was authorized by the Mexican government. The divorce process takes approximately 3 to 4 months.

The campaign is designed to reduce the difficulty and fear involved with visiting a traditional law firm by allowing people to use the web-based system.

In the United States, there are a number of companies that offer Internet-based document preparation of divorce forms, however, the ethical rules to which attorneys are bound make a net-based attorney’s operations, and the issuance of gift cards purchased by third parties, very difficult.

Many law firms are, however, increasingly mechanizing operations and shifting into an e-environment. There are also a large number of courts around the country that allow for electronic document filing. So it may be only a matter of time before U.S. attorneys offer services like those of Abogados Postulantes.

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Guiding your child or children through your divorce is a painful process. Providing them stability and reassurance at a time when you may not feel self-assured or stable yourself can be a really difficult task. But the effects on children can be far reaching, so helping them through this time is crucial.

In cases where there are children involved, Florida courts now use the term Shared Parenting Responsibility as it is less inflammatory that the word “custody”. The division of time between parents can be quite difficult on the child or children as they get accustomed to each parent’s new role as individual caretakers. At times like this, children of any age need reassurance and a listening ear. It won’t necessarily be a smooth path, but it doesn’t have to be a cloud of doom that hangs over them throughout their lives.

One way to help them come to terms with things and transition into healthy, confident, well-adjusted kids is to provide them with routine. Lay out a parenting plan ahead of time and stick to it so that kids know what to expect on any given day. This will not only help them feel more at ease, it will give them confidence in their relational standing with both parents just by knowing what to expect and when.

Secondly, allowing parental conflict to seep into the everyday lives of the children is a sure fire way to make kids angry, sad, or distrusting toward one parent or the other. Maintaining civility with one another when the kids are around is an important way to help them feel safe with either parent.

Dissolution of marriage won’t be without some degree of difficulty, but making your children a top priority can help alleviate some of that difficulty and help them grow to be emotionally healthy adults.

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Divorce has a new look in this age of technology. We have become a society driven by cell phones, computers, e-mail, and social networking, and those changes are quite apparent in today’s divorces. In an age where everything is visible and virtually nothing (no pun intended) is left to true privacy, there is very little we aren’t able to find out about one another.

Back in the day there may have been the occasion when a suspicious spouse would hire a private investigator to follow a suspected cheater around, hiding in bushes or slunk down in car seats to photograph alleged trysts. In today’s world we are visible to everyone in countless ways. Seeing into another person’s world has taken on a whole new dimension and brings with it an ease of finding out one’s deepest secrets in their on line personas.

In today’s world, the suspicious spouse or scorned lover merely has to take control of the other person’s e-mail, twitter account, or text messages. Facebook is mentioned in fully one-third of divorce cases in 2011, according to a survey by a British legal service. Finding an old flame that one has fond memories of is just a click away, unlike the days of having to actually hire someone to track down said flame.

Often before one even realizes what is happening, permanent and irreparable damage can be done. Be cautious of the people you let back into your life. Becoming part of the new look of divorce can literally just be a click away from reality.

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In a controversial statement, Satoshi Kanazawa asserts that polygamy would reduce divorce.

Kanazawa works as an evolutionary psychologist for the London School of Economics. In a video recently made for bigthink.com, he claims that the major reason for divorce is Western culture’s prohibition of polygamy.

In the video, he states, “humans are naturally polygynous. Successful men have always acquired more mates, but we don’t allow that in our society, so successful men are forced to divorce their previous wives who may be past the reproductive age in order to marry younger wives. If we allow polygyny-if we allow some men to acquire multiple mates-the divorce rate would go down dramatically.”

One critic countered that more divorce filings are initiated by women, contending that that subverts the idea that divorce happens because men simply want to mate with more women.

This is not Kanazawa’s first controversial statement. Indeed, he has promoted himself as an opponent to political correctness. In 2011, he publicly announced that black women were less attractive than other women because they have a higher mean body-mass index. His statements understandably created a storm of outrage. Following that blog, the London School of Economics prohibited him from publishing anything that was not reviewed by his peers for 1 year.

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Divorce often brings out the worst in people. It can be one of the most emotionally traumatic experiences in a person’s life, and the pain it causes can turn to bitterness towards a soon-to-be ex-spouse. That bitterness, in turn sometimes leads people to engage in underhanded tricks. One such trick employs the ethical rules to which attorneys are bound, called “conflicting.”

The basic theory behind conflicting, is built around the ethical guideline governing conflicts of interest that attorneys must follow. Every state has a very similar version of the rule. Florida’s rule is laid out under Rule 4-1.7(a) of the Florida Rules of Professional Conduct. Rule 4-1.7(a) says:

“A lawyer shall not represent a client if the representation of that client will be directly adverse to the interests of another client . . . .”

The trick involved in conflicting involves one spouse running around to all of the best divorce attorneys and having consultations with them. During the consultations, if the spouse provides enough information to the attorney to create an attorney-client relationship, that spouse will become a client. The spouse then goes to the next attorney and does the same thing. Soon, all the best attorneys have an attorney-client relationship with that spouse, and the other spouse has a difficult time recruiting an attorney that would not be subject to the conflict of interest rule.

Heidi Klum recently generated publicity when she went to a number of different attorneys. Many believed that she was attempting to prevent her husband from getting a good attorney. She claimed to simply be shopping around.

Whether Klum’s motives were genuine or not, the incident demonstrates that it can be difficult to prove that conflicting is going on. The spouse engaging in this behavior will likely claim to be shopping for an adequate attorney.

The best defense to such behavior is to recruit a good attorney as quickly as you can once you know that a divorce is imminent. Getting the attorney lined up will prevent conflicting and the attorney will help you to fight for your interests.

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A recent study indicates that parents of children with cancer are not at an increased risk of divorce.

Scientists in Denmark studied data on over 47,000 Danish couples to learn more about the effects of cancer on marital relationships. The study culled public registry data on 2,450 couples whose children had been diagnosed with cancer as well as data on 44,853 couples whose children had not been diagnosed with cancer. The data was pulled for the years 1980 through 1997.

The study accounted for different employment statuses and different household incomes. It also incorporated how likely an unmarried couple was to split up.

Christoffer Johansen, one of the project’s researchers, said, “there has been a fear that such a traumatic event as having a child diagnosed with cancer could lead to divorce. Overall, we did not see that. What we see is, you are simply able to cope.”

Although the study showed that many parents whose children have cancer do indeed get divorced, the rate of divorce was no greater than it is in the general public.

Johansen continued, “I think this is quite reassuring.” While he noted that there are different cultural views regarding divorce in different countries, he expressed the belief that the findings could be generalized to other countries.

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